#MavenMeets Hadley Lane Photography

This time on #MavenMeets I had the pleasure of connecting with a Midland local photographer named Hadley.

Hadley and I have been connected on Facebook for quite some time, and I had noticed her incredible photos over the last few months on my newsfeed. I was so excited when she agreed to be a part of my #MavenMeets series and allow me to shadow her for the day. Not only was I impressed with Hadley’s skill, I was amazed at the fact that she is only seventeen and owns her own business!

I had the opportunity to not only vlog our experience, but to interview her as well!

 

Where did you go to school?

 

I am still in school, I go to Midland High and am graduating in May. I am going to Northwood University next year.

Where do you work?

 

I own a business, Hadley Lane Photography.


What made you decide to become a photographer?

 

Photography has always been a passion of mine, but I started to get more into it and noticed how I could make profit off of my talents. I mostly became a “photographer” because of my love for photos.

Who or what do you look to for inspiration?

 

I usually go on Pinterest or look at other photographers work in a group I’m in on Facebook for the preset pack I use.


What is your favorite part about being involved in the photography industry?

 

I really love the connections I make with other people. It is a great feeling to make other people feel beautiful and to love photos of themselves. Also, being a photographer is really versatile so I am able to do pretty much anything.

How do you overcome society’s constant pressure of beauty & perfection that is pushed onto women & young girls?

 

I always try to remind myself that I was created how I am and am who I am because that is what God wanted. I am completely unique and everyone is different.


What piece of advice would you give a woman who thinks they may want to pursue photography?

 

I would tell them to go out and do it! Learn about the art and just practice, practice, practice. Youtube helps a lot!


What’s your favorite song to jam out to when you need a pick me up? (I’m making a bossbabe playlist!)

 

Oceans by Hillsong UNITED or Jumpin Jumpin by Destiny’s Child

 

Check out some of the images from our day together!!

This slideshow requires JavaScript.

Watch the vlog HERE

 

 


Connect with Hadley on Facebook, Instagram, & her website!!

@hadleylanephotography 

hadleylanephotography.com

 

Everybody Always…My New Favorite Read

EveryBody Always

A few weeks back my cousin Tori gifted me this new read. I’m only a few chapters in, but boy has it been speaking to me.

Over the last year, personally, I’ve gone through some challenges. Facing loss not only because of Death, but because…my relationships with certain people have failed. It’s so easy to love people when they agree with you right? When things are going good & you’re getting along…it makes friendships/relationships a breeze and then..shit hits the fan. Someone does or says something that crushes your soul..and after that your ability to love them becomes a little less unconditional.

I think we all are guilty of this at least a few times in life. And something I’ve learned is..even though their actions may have been wrong..doesn’t mean I was right. I think I had gotten into the habit of holding these people I love so dearly on an unrealistic pedestal. Assuming that their thoughts aligned perfectly with mine and they would never hurt me. When in fact..that is SO unfair to them. They are HUMAN just like me..and at some point are bound to mess up. Humanity is messy, and selfish, and imperfect. So why on earth would I be expecting my friendships/relationships to be any different? Now thats not to say there aren’t boundaries. Of course if someone is truly toxic there comes a point where removing them may be necessary…however grace also needs to be taken into consideration.

One scenario that comes to mind for me was when I was recently told that I share too much on social media. Okay, so for those of you who may not know me too well..social media is not only my job but its my chosen platform to share my heart. To help heal & inspire & to be inspired by others. I firmly believe that we were created with a set of “gifts”. However they aren’t ours to keep. These gifts are meant to be given to others we come in contact with. And the more we all open up to one another the more we can learn and find the gifts that are waiting for us in the very people we pass by daily. I think thats why so many people live life feeling empty. They build these walls out of fear that they are sharing too much..and all thats left is a heart shelf full of gifts that were never meant for them to keep to begin with. It’s our job to go out and find the people who need the gifts we possess so that we can make room for the ones we NEED. I read somewhere once “There is power in your pain”..and boy has this year been painful. After losing a few people to death I began sharing some of my heart when it comes to grief. And for whatever reason it was viewed by some as “attention seeking” or “unhealthy” etc. And let me tell you that hurt. It hurt because I know my heart & I expected that they would too. I assumed that I wouldn’t have to defend myself or the way I share whats on my mind. I could have easily gone off the handle and called all of them out after figuring out what went down. But instead…I prayed on it. I recognized that I am not in control of how others perceive me (even those I love) I am only in control of how I react to that perception. And learning to embrace my insecurities and not let them overcome me I could ground myself in confidence and know that…no matter what was said I KNOW who I am and what I’m about. And its not up to me to convince anyone else to catch up with that. I also knew that just because there was a disagreement in this matter doesn’t mean I should stop loving or caring for them. And even though in the heat of the moment it may not have been that easy…its worth it. Its okay to hear opposing views on not only life but yourself at times. It helps you gain perspective & helps to push you further towards the person you are becoming.

“Why are you so afraid? Who are you trying to impress? Am I really so insecure that I surround myself only with people who agree with me? When people are flat out wrong, why do I appoint myself the sheriff to straighten them out? Burning down others’ opinions doesn’t make us right. It makes us arsonists.” -Bob Goff

I read this quote earlier in “Everybody Always” and it hit so close to home. Why is it that we often find ourselves only choosing to surround ourselves with those who agree with us all the time? Why is it so hard to love people when they think differently? I haven’t quite mastered it however as I reflect upon this last year I truly believe God is trying to teach me something. He is trying to teach me to learn to love even when its hard. Even when I’m hurt. Even when I don’t agree. Because thats what he does for all of us daily. And if there is anything I am certain of in this life it’s that I want to be more like him every day.

So here is to smashing pedestals, forgiving those who have hurt us, & learning to respect opposing views and meeting them with love instead of defense.

 

***If you’d like to pick up a copy of “Everybody Always” (which I highly suggest you do) you can grab it HERE

The gift of Confidence

Over the summer I had the pleasure of meeting miss Kati. We were introduced by a mutual friend who had shared with me a little about Kati. Kati was diagnosed with Hodgkins Lymphoma and was battling for her life. She had an event to go to (a wedding) and her friend wondered if I could help her get ready for the day.

We chatted on Facebook before actually meeting I remember her telling me “This is my first event I’m attending after my chemo treatments..I just don’t want to look sick.” Her story hit close to home as one of my dear friends had been battling cancer over the last 2 years. We unfortunately lost him just a few short weeks ago & it truly changed me. He hated getting his picture taken and had shared with me on a few occasions how he hated what chemo had done as far as his outward appearance. It shattered my heart because I knew him before all of this…I know what a sweet person he was and to have him feel that way..knowing CANCER made him feel that way & took that confidence from him enraged me.

I didn’t want Kati to feel that way about herself either. So I offered to do her makeup & help her get ready completely free of charge & I reached out to my dear friend Dana Lyn Gruszynski from DanaG Photography to see if we could make it happen in her gorgeous studio. She, being the amazing soul she is, agreed without hesitation and the date was set!

We met in the morning and from the moment we hugged there was an instant connection. Kati is intelligent, funny, kind, & more importantly BEAUTIFUL inside & out. Just a true genuine soul. I got to learn so much more about Kati this day. Her goals, dreams, school, family….she is SO much more than her diagnosis. Before I knew it we had completed her look & when I saw her look in the mirror and her face light up it was honestly one of the best moments. She felt CONFIDENT & comfortable in her own skin. Something that everyone deserves to feel.

I’m happy to report that a few weeks back Kati WON her battle against Hodgkins Lymphoma and now is CANCER FREE & in remission!! I had been praying so hard for her since we met and I’m so thankful that she is here & thriving.

People with Cancer are just that…PEOPLE. They are more than their diagnosis. They are more than a patient number on a chart. They are more than office visits, and well wishes, and treatments….They are human beings who deserve to feel good about themselves from the inside out. I’m so very happy Kati allowed me to be a part of this special day for her & for her to share some of her story with me.

Kati you are a beautiful woman & beautiful soul. I am so happy our paths crossed. I continue to pray for you & wish you all the happiness, confidence, & love in the world. 💛🙏🏻

Grief

Grief is a strange thing. The stages go in no particular order & at times it seems like more of a deep pool of chaos.

My mind races constantly with thoughts of what could have been or should have been differently. I understand it’s pointless but that doesn’t stop my brain from processing it in this way.

I don’t believe it. I don’t believe that I will never again be in the same room as my loved one. I don’t believe that our time together has abruptly come to an end. How can a lifetime of love for another be stolen away within what feels like minutes? Just gone…that’s it…over..final. So final.

And I know there’s another space I can’t see right now. I know they wait for me to enter into the next room of this journey we are on. But right now…right in this moment..I’m still here & they are still there and nothing here can fill that void in between & bring us back together.

Instead it’s filled with memories & thoughts & regrets & anger & happiness…& all of the emotions you can think of rolled into one. It’s filled with a lifetime of moments that we will never be able to get back. And it feels like the heaviest weight is bearing down on my chest..and I can’t breathe. My mind is filled with the heaviest of fogs…And tears keep coming down even though I feel I have none left to give…they just keep falling.

Grief is not a 12 step program. It cannot be defined on paper as a puzzle to complete and get through. No…grief lingers. Grief clings to you like bonfire smoke on your favorite hoodie. It’s not always so noticeable but when you sense it..it takes over.

Grief is like a luke warm pool of water. It almost becomes comfortable. Because as long as you’re feeling grief it almost as if your soul is still clinging to theirs. The one last thing you have a chance to grasp…just barely…It’s almost even scarier to think of a day without it…because without it will you remember them every day? Or do they just fade into the background of your mind only to be plucked to the center on anniversary’s or holidays like a long lost relative…

I’m not exactly sure where this grief will take me. However I do know that no matter how unbearable it may seem…grief still can never over power love.

My brother shared a poem today & it fits perfectly…

“It’s avails not, time nor place—distance avails not, I am with you.”

For my Grandfather & my dear friend…I’ll be missing you. 💔🙏🏻