One of the most important things we use to communicate. You, this very second, are reading a collection of words I’ve thrown into the universe (or cyber space for that matter) to convey my exact emotions/feelings/thoughts at this very moment. What a beautiful thing right? To be able to read someone’s feelings. To be able to feel someone’s heart through words.
So often we take for granted the words we speak. Words are used to complain, to gossip, or worse….hurt others or even ourselves. With such an amazing ability we have to communicate why on earth would we use our words to spread hate? I was reading my morning devotional and this exact topic came up.
-Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.
–There is one who speaks like the piercings of a sword. But the tongue of the wise promotes health.
I encountered a situation last night where words were used to try and hurt me. Here I was trying to be productive & helpful and someone was trying to purposefully put me down. For whatever reason, unknown to me, this person went out of their way to use their ability as a sword and cut into me. It hurt.
Instead of reacting right then and there and calling the person out…I remained quiet and decided to actually THINK before I reacted. However I cannot necessarily say I was slow to anger, because girl…it was there…and it was boiling over. After I thought about all the ways I could snap back at this individual (lets face it in the heat of the moment that is far more appealing) I sat and thought back to times where I also wasn’t so nice to others.
Back in my high school years I wasn’t always the person I am today. In fact..some may say I was a mean girl. In my mind anyone I argued with or put down “had it coming”. I had some sort of “reason” why I treated them bad. I had some sort of “reason” why I used my words to cut into them vs. promote a healthy loving environment. And you know what? I was MISERABLE. I was so unhappy with where I was & so on the defense all the time I allowed it to be a scape goat to use my words in a negative way to drag others down. It was awful. It was embarrassing.
However over the last decade as I have grown into womanhood I have recognized how important our words are. Even in difficult situations…words cannot be taken back. So therefore we need to use them wisely. Instead of going off and saying the first thing that comes to mind….we need to pause, listen, and actually put thought into the words we use. This goes for the words we speak to ourselves as well. Every word you put out into the universe should promote love, health, & positivity. And more importantly during the difficult times….RESPECT. Respect for the person you are interacting with & respect enough for yourself to recognize that your words are truly a reflection of who you are on the inside. After all your words are simply your inner thoughts being brought to light.
So after this negative encounter last night I started to recognize that this person in fact lacks self respect. They have not been able to grow into a positive or love promoting individual. They think so low of themselves that they carelessly use their words to try and drag others down with them. And that…Is heartbreaking to me. Because I understand what that feels like. Because I too…was a miserable person back in my younger years. And like the saying goes….”Misery loves company”. I wanted others to feel the way I was feeling. I was self centered & inconsiderate to those around me. I wish so badly I could go back and talk to that girl and explain to her the impact of her words. They truly are one of the most powerful tools we have.
I challenge you today to take a few moments and consider the words you speak in a day. Are they good? Do they bring value into your own life or the life of others? Are they genuine and respectful? Or are you careless and speak the first words that come to mind even if they are negative? Your words have the power to help heal or destroy. So use them wisely. You would be amazed at how a simple change in the way you communicate will multiply the happiness in your life.
Proverbs 18:21-The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.
Happy Friday All. Much love to you & heres to using our words for good.